It was a race against time today, of epic proportions. (Actually, not really. But I like the word epic.) I really have some problem with managing my time lah. Even though my pen barely stopped moving across the paper, I still couldn't finish my final essay satisfactorily. Pah. Well, two more papers to go, but 7 more essays to write!! Yaargh.

I was on the bus to school today, and they were showing some Channel 8 drama about lawyers. And Ivy Lee's character was saying how in a divorce, the children are still inevitably the ones who always get hurt the most. I don't really agree though. I don't like how a lot of people tend to divorce the parents from their roles as human beings during divorces. (Pun intended) It's like during a divorce, the parents and the children are seperated into two camps; the parents as one squabbling, selfish unit who do not care about their children, and the other camp, the innocent children. Yes, divorce is painful for the kids. They don't get to have a complete family, and they have to be shuttled back and forth from one parent to another. But to say that the children suffer the most isn't fair, is it? Who can measure the suffering we go through? At some point in time, divorce became a parent thing. The man and woman are seen as "parents" and not as human beings with very real feelings anymore. I mean, you marry this person, and you take your marriage vows, and you think, this is it. I've met the person I'm going to be with all my life. I've found him/her. Things cannot get better than this. And than a few years, or many years on, you realise that this person isn't the one for you after all. And the situation gets so painful and difficult, that it's no longer possible to live together. And then what? Your earlier belief that you've finally realised your dream has been dashed. What's it like to think you have found something/someone, only to realise it wasn't meant to be all along? It must be painful. I don't like how the drama said that parents are selfish for divorcing. I don't like how they think that parents are being unreasonable and ignorant of their children's needs, only caring about their own emotional states. The pain of having to uproot one's life completely, having to change everything, having to break one's vows, having to face up to one's family and relatives, and most of all having to explain to your children and realising that the man/woman you thought was the one for you, really isn't the one for you. I don't think it's any less than the pain a child feels.

This is not to say I think people should get divorces if they think they can't get along. I believe that it is a last resort. If all else fails, and everything is irreconcilable. I'm saying that people should stop making statements such as parents being selfish for divorcing, because it's really unfair to blame them completely. And people really must think marriage over and over again, because it's a lifelong commitment. You don't get married to get divorced. That's just wrong, illogical and ridiculous.

Okay. I don't know what made me write this, but I just felt like it. Anyway, History beckons. Ciao!